Sunday, December 4, 2011
Monday, October 10, 2011
Dear Mommy Amy,
Liv Tunsitu was talking about her Daddy not coming back. She said he was in heaven and she would never see him again. She was telling her friends this and they were comforting her and it was very sweet.
...It went on to talk about other aspects of the day.
I asked LT if she wanted to talk about her birth Dad, who passed prior to her birth. Over the last several months, she tells me she misses him a lot and almost immediately cries. We talk about how it's ok to be sad and that while we'll never see him, he lives in our hearts and watches over us and we can always talk about him and miss him and talk to him, etc. Then tonight she asked me to write a talking tape.
The talking tape is a tool we learned from her school to acknowledge the kids emotional feelings. You write down what they say with a felt pen on some masking tape and then tape it right to her shirt. This tool has worked exceptionally well at our house (and we use it several times a week) because she can reference the talking tape and not feel like she needs to hold on to it. I can also ask her about her thoughts and she has a way to express heavy emotion.
Tonight's tape wrapped around her body. It read:
"I love and miss my Daddy in heaven. At night when I wiggle my toes in bed, I look up and say I love you. You always live in my heart. Goodbye Daddy."
Thursday, October 6, 2011
My dearest LT (currently 3.5),
After a very precious 2.5 years of knowing you, I'm gaining clarity on the path I'll be joining you on. Stepping back to my "waiting period" and wondering if I was paired with your fragile self because I'd need to protect you, shelter, help you find "your space." Ummm, not so much.
The truth is that I always felt your strength but as you were packaged in a significantly underweight body with frozen eyes, it made me doubt if I was best suited to give you everything you needed. As, I prepared for the mother mindset, I surrendered to the fact that you needed an advocate. Someone who cared and fought for you and that I knew I could do. That's all I started with, that one intention.
What has unfolded over the last couple years has blown me away. You, my sweetest, are a magnificent force. You are unlimited. And that responsibility/honor in providing a framework for growth envelopes me especially as you sprint through expression. As a single working mom I hope that I will parent you in way that encourages your best self. Not lying - this feels unattainable at times. But because what I do understand is that a series of choices guided by energy & intent can manifest into more than I can imagine.
WHAT I WISH FOR YOU:
Acceptance & love will pour through your pores
The small things and honest moments will fill you with happiness
Hope & faith will be on autopilot
You will live balancing peace with drive
WHAT I KNOW FOR YOU:
You will feel the world hear your words
You will challenge, try, create, confuse all because of your strong vision
You will impact people through your passion, pain, storytelling & experiences
Searching will serve a large role in your life
Friday, August 19, 2011
Monday, April 25, 2011
Thursday, March 31, 2011
So a bit blown away today as I was walking in to school today one of LT's classmates had drawn a ladybug. I smiled and told the teacher (best teacher in the world) ladybugs are very important to us. She said, "oh me too, I have one tattoo on my back, it made me feel better during my cancer treatment." What's interesting, is that's when they starting appearing in major ways in my life - when my father was going through cancer treatment. I would have never guessed she would have one but if was soooo good to hear and once again "ladybugs appear" in significant ways.
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
This week marks 2 years since the Ethiopian courts made us each others. When I think about all the factors that go into our union, I shed a tear because I realize that none of it was chance and all of it is a beautiful orchestration of a divine power. She is extraordinary & every ounce of me feels humbled by the grandness in the universe's scheme. This week, I honor the whispers in my soul that told me this was meant for me when it seemed strange to most. I honor our Ethiopian family. I celebrate family this week, in every fashion, construct & appearance. LT is my heart and I'm happy to navigate life with the motherly feelings that inform my priorities. Happy Family Anniversary to us and to the best birthday present ever - my girl.
Friday, March 11, 2011
So my friend Jodi and I were having lunch talking about the cute Africa inspired clothes we could make and low and behold, Jodi actually made them. See post and please let us know what you think!
Venice, CA – Local family spear heads fundraising effort - A Book in Their Hands - to build a library and school in their their children's birth place in Ethiopia and has brought together an amazing evening of art, live performances, silent auction,food & drink on Sunday, April 17 at the Electric Lodge in Venice, CA. The benefit will feature over 40 pieces of original art work and photography with pieces from renown African artists Yadesa Bojia, Fortune Sitole, Paul Nzalamba. Event will also include a performance from, Ana Egge and Aldous Collins. Additionally, award-winning writer Jane Kurtz will be speaking and signing books. Tickets are limited and $50/person and are available online at www.ethiopiareads.org
Join us on April 17th for a powerful evening of global giving as we come together to make sure books and education are a reality for one community in the Kambata Tembaro region of Ethiopia.
WHEN: April 17th, 2011, 6:30 pm
WHERE: The Electric Lodge
1416 Electric Ave, Venice, Ca. 90291
Tickets: $50 (adults only) via www.ethiopiareads.org
More Info: Contact Julie at firstname.lastname@example.org
Event Updates: Facebook Page - “A Book in Their Hands”