The one bit of excellent advice my social worker gave me on my first home study visit was to find my tribe. She said not just other moms or adoptive moms but single adoptive moms. They are your tribe and they will be the main ones to get you. She was right. This is not to say I don't have other truly amazing friends but there are nuances that play into finding your tribe which is essential for every parent.
Just finished a quick review of fellow single moms Liz & Shannon's blogs and I feel so inspired that these women are brave enough to share right where they are. The fact that they even share their insecurities shows me that they are aware, reflective, adjusted, motivated mothers. Liz with a more academic approach and Shannon will visceral reactions (confessional Fridays) both really connect with my spectrum of mommy mindfulness/madness. I started this blog to share & scrapbook and it's morphed into that an more - the ultimate support group.
Really "single momminess" needs to have it's own wiki page full of all the things that are inferred but not spoken:
- find your tribe - other single adoptive moms
- Be aware - it's not depression it's just called "zoning out" and is just an essential reaction that has to creep in due to massive hyper - productivity
- RESPONSIBILITY. nuff said.
- you will feel like you're not enough 95% of the time
- No complaining allowed - you chose this!
- The truth is every single adoptive mom I've come across is EXTRAORDINARY, INSPIRED, MULTI -FACETED, DETERMINED & LOVING MOMS who seem to be VERY humble about their capabilities.
Shout outs to my tribe & thank you for your constant inspiration. And feel free to add to the wiki page... ;D