Friday, July 30, 2010

Older children adoptions


The idea of first and foremost filling the job as a parent. Just a parent. The other stuff (love, bonding, like) may not come for a very long time.

Really important post that needs more attention. Thanks Coffeemom.


Monday, July 26, 2010

The Foot Stomp


Where did this come from? It rolled in like a storm. A week full of foot stomps.

It's always the right. It usually comes with a strong "Stop It" or "Don't Open" or "Don't Close" or "Mine" or "I don't Go"

Anyone else?

I saw this quote and it made me think that maybe this is what the foot stomps are about for her...

"A person's a person no matter how small." - Dr. Seuss



Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Tribe

The one bit of excellent advice my social worker gave me on my first home study visit was to find my tribe. She said not just other moms or adoptive moms but single adoptive moms. They are your tribe and they will be the main ones to get you. She was right. This is not to say I don't have other truly amazing friends but there are nuances that play into finding your tribe which is essential for every parent.

Just finished a quick review of fellow single moms Liz & Shannon's blogs and I feel so inspired that these women are brave enough to share right where they are. The fact that they even share their insecurities shows me that they are aware, reflective, adjusted, motivated mothers. Liz with a more academic approach and Shannon will visceral reactions (confessional Fridays) both really connect with my spectrum of mommy mindfulness/madness. I started this blog to share & scrapbook and it's morphed into that an more - the ultimate support group.

Really "single momminess" needs to have it's own wiki page full of all the things that are inferred but not spoken:

- find your tribe - other single adoptive moms

- Be aware - it's not depression it's just called "zoning out" and is just an essential reaction that has to creep in due to massive hyper - productivity

- RESPONSIBILITY. nuff said.

- you will feel like you're not enough 95% of the time

- No complaining allowed - you chose this!

- The truth is every single adoptive mom I've come across is EXTRAORDINARY, INSPIRED, MULTI -FACETED, DETERMINED & LOVING MOMS who seem to be VERY humble about their capabilities.

Shout outs to my tribe & thank you for your constant inspiration. And feel free to add to the wiki page... ;D

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Hula

Grandma's present - Hula girl outfit and bubbles. Yeay!!!



Sunday, July 11, 2010

Cultural Lessons

We are lucky enough to have an Ethiopian Cultural School that just started near us. This weekend was a first class. I expect amazing things to flourish by virtue of this community.

Saturday, July 10, 2010

Happy Days


Another Great Time with Friends. Friday night Jazz on the Grass
























Then Ethiopian Cultural School (so much fun)
























Then Date Night with handsome Noah

























Doesn't get much better than this!



Thursday, July 8, 2010

T-Shirts...can say a lot!
















Stumbled across 3 T-Shirt companies that I love and want to promote:



Little Gurus - Awesome sayings of empowerment


Bernos - African/Ethiopian pride


Common Threadz - NonProfit where orphans design t-shirts to help orphans